16 October 2007

Bad-Ass Nice!

1. pleasing; agreeable; delightful
2. amiably pleasant; kind
I used to be a nice girl. I was no push-over, but I was willing to see the other point of view, willing to compromise. I'd do nice things for people just because. But not only that, I'd do nice things for people because I wanted them to like me. Yeah, it's pathetic, I know, but I was young, I didn't know who I was or what I wanted and that's okay. For a while.

But the whole "nice girl" thing got old. Really old. And so I have been left with a lifetime aversion to the word "nice." It just feels inadequate, you know? Who wants to be nice when you could be awesome? or dynamic? or inspirational? or bad-ass?

As I watched the "Nice Matters" award make its way around the blogosphere, as these things are wont to do, I realized that I was not the only one with an aversion to the word "nice." And when I was awarded the "Nice Matters" award by Cathy, I was... okay fine, I was thrilled, because I do love me some bloggy bling, but also, I wasn't sure what to say.

So I passed it on. But Megan complained, 'cause she's cool like that. Here's what she said:
Hey! Thank you! I am rarely called "nice." Too much attitude creates a force field around me that sort of makes that adjective just bump right off. I'm glad someone thinks I can be nice!
And I realized she was right. No, not that she wasn't nice, but that it was kinda lame to be called nice. "Nice" just doesn't have much oomph to it, you know? Not so cool. But, I do think Megan is nice, so I told her so, but I also think she's bad-ass, so I told her that too. And then I promised to make a button to that effect. So I did:
bad-ass nice:
1. uncompromisingly nice; sticking up for what's right
2. kind to others: without losing sight of one's self
3. hard-core niceness advocate

And actually, since I made it just for Megan, I had no right to be slinging it around. But then, since she's just so freakin' bad-ass nice, Megan gave it back to me! How sweet is that, yo?

So here's who I think is Bad-Ass Nice (besides Megan): (also, this is harder than it looks - I know a lot of bad-ass nice bloggers)

Well, there's Casey of Moosh in Indy who is trying to be patient while her husband looks for a law internship, but who also encourages (oh come on, don't pretend to be innocent, I know you love it) this kind of thing.

And of course we have Kevin, who I absolutely love, and can I tell you how many times my dad made me show him O-Mazing Grace? No, no I can not. Kevin deserves this award, because while he is willing to and capable of making fun of people any time, any place, he also has a big heart and is generous with his friends and loved ones and the whales.

Shauna at Pass the Chocolate is bad-ass nice, because, well, because chocolate! Hello! It's only like the best metaphor ever for bad-ass nice, in fact, if bad-ass nice had an official metaphor/mascot, it would be chocolate. For real. Hey, wait! I'm in charge of this bad-ass nice thing, so yeah, chocolate is now the official metaphor/mascot of the bad-ass nice button. Also, this proves it. And this was really funny.

And also Jessica of A Bushel and a Peck (and a Hug Around the Neck) deserves this award. She began her blog just 42 days ago and jumped in with both feet - way braver than me, who did not comment on any one else's blog for months after the creation of my own. Also, there's this. And this. And this.

I know that pretty much anyone who reads my blog is also Bad-Ass Nice (I mean, really, how could you not be?) but I have to stop somewhere, so for that's it for today. Although I reserve the right to award this again, should the need arise, and of course I expect you, oh worthy recipients, to distribute this award as you see fit. Go on, I trust you.


Queen of Shake-Shake said...

ITA with your view on nice. It just doesn't seem to fit me either. I mean, I try to be nice and see the other side and all those things you listed...and I do to an extent. But shoot, I am human and my calm niceness only goes so far before the satan in me comes out. You know?


Velveteen Mind Megan said...

Can I just say that I was ordering some MOO cards for a project the other day, browsing through my images to upload, and seriously considered using this one on a notecard. Seriously.

I am fairly certain that I'm going to have to print these on little cards to hand out at BlogHer next year. If you are there and are really lucky, I might just give you one. I'm bad-ass that way.

Cathy said...

Now me, I'm just brimming over with niceness! Ask Hubs. He'll vouch for me. After a bottle of wine.

Annette Lyon said...

Fun award--and I love the mascot, of course. :)

Jessica @ A Bushel and a Peck said...

Oh my goodness. To say I'm honored, well...that would be an understatement. :)

I will wear it and pass it on proudly. You are so bad-ass for making it!

Maureen said...

"It's nice to be nice... to the nice..."

Carrie said...

you've received an award!
you know where to look!

sniff... I'm not bad ass?! just kidding!


cate said...

to totally agree with everything you said, and your choices of winners! they all are definitely bad-ass!

love the new button, btw!

Oh, The Joys said...

Bad ass nice is the new cool.

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